What is my Parenting Styles

Parents have a major role in their children’s lives because of how they decided to raise their children. Parenting styles vary from parent to parent. Parents tell their children that what is right and what is wrong. Every parent wants her child to have good morals.

To see growing their children in different areas of life including physical, social and practical etc. is every parent’s dream.

There are two basic terminologies to understand the basic philosophy of different types of parenting styles:

Demandingness

Demandingness is the control of parents on their children’s behavior or to show maturity in their deeds. Demandingness is the thing that parents expect from their children: positive attitude, good academic results, and good behavior. Simply, being a parent, it is your requirement from your child regarding her conduct both with the family members and in the society.

Responsiveness

Responsiveness is the responsibility of parents to care the different needs of children and accepting their role in effective parenting. If your child is doing something wrong, it is your responsibility to stop her and show her the right path. It’s your responsibility to teach her in a good institute and also teach her about respecting elders and thinking positively.

There is a famous quote by William Ellery Channing’

“Properly educating a child is more difficult than monarchy on a country.”

Four parenting styles

There are four types of parenting styles. In these parenting styles, we will learn about the merits and demerits of parenting styles.

Authoritarian parenting style

An authoritarian parenting style is the one with high demanding and low responsive. Such types of parents make strict rules for their kids. If kids do a small mistake, then punishment is given compulsory to mend their ways.

When kids ask about something or about the explanation of rules, they say, “This is my order. I consider it right”. Such types of parents want 100% from their children but children cannot achieve that goal due to overburden and strict rules made by her parents.

The children of authoritarian parents are not happy and pleased with life. Such children are ready to quit easily in challenging times and are depressed all the time.

Authoritative parents:

These parents are highly responsive and demanding. They also make strict rules for their kids but they also explain their rules in detail because they know that children can only be convinced by giving proper explanation.

They are emotionally intelligent as they have ability to sense the feelings of their kids.  The children of such parents are good at decision making, happy and satisfied with the life. Such children are highly active and energetic and are mentally sound and relaxed.

Permissive parents

These parents are not demanding but have responsive attitude. They don’t set rules for their kids to follow. If kids do some mistakes, such parents ignore the mistakes by saying this “they are kids; they will rectify it with the passage of time”.

Such ignorance can lead the parents to face difficulties in children’s behavior and attitude. Children of such permissive parents show poor academic results and make bad choices. Such children may adopt bad habits rapidly because of the lack of check and balance.

Children also don’t know how to take right decisions; so, the chances of error of judgment are manifold. Children having such parents might face these challenges in their practical life also.

Uninvolved parents

These parents are neither demanding nor responsive. They are busy in their own activities. They don’t care what the children are doing. Such types of children are not emotionally intelligent and can’t face the challenges of life courageously. Such children adopt bad habits like drug abuse and mental issues like depression and anxiety which might lead to committing even suicide.

Being a parent, it is your responsibility to understand the pros and cons of different parenting styles and improves your parenting style if needed.

Enjoy your happy and successful parenting journey.